I was the first of my siblings to flee the nest. Just four weeks after my 18th birthday, believing I was a fully fledged grown-up, I moved to a flat in the West End of Glasgow where I went to University.
I loved it so much that even after graduating, my friends and I rented our flat for another year. Eventually I made the move back to my hometown and bought a house with my then boyfriend of 4 years. Unfortunately after less than a year we broke up and had to sell the house which left us both in debt and me renting a flat on my own.
When I met Kevin he was in exactly the same situation. After dating and living together for a few years we found ourselves in a situation where house prices had rocketed, mortgages were difficult to come by and saving the required deposit while paying monthly bills was damn near impossible. Kevin had also at that time quit his job to start a business with his brother, something he’d always wanted to do to.
After much debating and consideration we decided the best way to kick start our savings fund, pay off any debts we had and give Kevin time to establish his business was to…
MOVE BACK IN WITH OUR PARENTS!!
..and so I became a ‘boomerang kid’.
Of course my parents welcomed me with open arms as I am their favourite daughter or I like to tell them I am (middle child syndrome is real)
The Relationship – Parents
I love my parents, obviously and I am truly grateful to have a family to turn to and rely on in situations like this. My Mum and I have had our fair share of arguments in the past but I’ve learned when to bite my tongue and how to keep her sweet most of the time. I guess at heart I’m a little bit of a Daddy’s Girl.
My dad has MS along with other health issues and is fully confined to a wheelchair. Although I don’t pay full rent the little I do pay is a help to them. Also it means I’m usually around to help if my Mum needs some help or time-out.
I save money and help them out.
The Living Quarters
With my Dads disability my parents bedroom and bathroom is on the ground floor. I pretty much live upstairs where there are 3 bedrooms a bathroom and without a doubt it is much bigger than my first flat.
I save money and have lots of space!
The Relationship – Kevin
Kevin lives with his Mum and step-dad 10 miles away, he stays at mine at the weekends and on occasion a night during the week. It’s tougher than imagined but I’d say for the most part it has been good for our relationship. It’s definately made us appreciate the time we spend together.
The Saving Fund
I’ll admit it, we got off to a terrible start.
When I first moved home my younger sister was still there. It was like returning home from a really long trip. We had a ball. Long weekend trips to various cities across Europe, we’d go to the the movies (we went every night one week), shopped till we dropped and there was always some sort mid-week event for us to attend together.
At the same time Kevin and I would go out for dinner and drinks every weekend or book a hotel for the night here and there, before our social life had been pretty much …Netflix. I had so much spare cash I would buy stuff I didn’t really need and Kevin was just as bad, we went on holidays that we wouldn’t have before. It was 7 months before we realised we hadn’t saved a penny or put a dent in any of our loans.
Slow start but back on track.
Initially our plan was to save a decent deposit for a house which we estimated to take a maximum of 2 years. After a bad start to saving and not finding anything we really love, we’ve started to move the goal posts…if we stay here and save for longer we can save for our wedding too… A bigger house…or build our own.
The plan has been abandoned we’re just waiting to see who cracks first.
The Current Status
I think it’s going to be at least another 18months before we do anything about buying a home together. Some days I’m ok with that and some days I feel like it’s forever away.
Future on hold.
Look out for my next post On Living with Parents -A day in the Life
Have you or could you live with your parents as an adult?
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